There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. But through mentoring we saw that we weren’t expected to have one.
We sat down with David & Christy and asked them to share how mentoring has impacted their marriage and their family. We'd love to share their story with you.
Q: What is the biggest change you have seen in your marriage since starting being mentored?
Christy: We are both imperfect people, living in an imperfect world. Through the mentoring process David and I were able to see that we weren’t expected to have a perfect marriage - because a perfect marriage doesn’t exist. Marriage is just like parenting, a place to constantly learn and grow with each other. And we can only love each other through the love and grace of our perfect father.
Both of us are now more focused on intentionally laying down our pride and confessing to each other with more transparency. We’ve even begun striving to forgive each other in order to move forward loving and serving each other. I am finding ways to praise David for the things he does for me.
David: And I am focused on intentionally initiating date nights with Christy to keep pursuing her. Our youngest daughter even noticed a change in our marriage. She told us that she ‘likes it when we meet with our mentor couple because she knew we were working to make our marriage better.’ I can only hope that she sees that marriage is hard work.
I pray that our participation in a mentoring relationship is an example for her to never give up on her future marriage. And a testimony from us showing her that we will never give up on each other.
Q: How do you think your marriage might look now if you had not participated in marriage mentoring?
Christy: That’s hard to imagine. I don’t think we would truly believe that as imperfect people we could have a marriage that glorifies God and brings us joy. Through prayer, encouragement and transparency our mentor couple gave us hope to stay the course and continue to give each other grace even when we didn’t feel like it.
Q: What part of the mentoring relationship did you find the most helpful?
David: By far it would be seeing the transparency of our mentor couple. They reminded us time and again that they don’t have a perfect marriage, but they also continually gave us hope that as we forgive each other and love each other our imperfections will become less important.